Parents of Estranged Adult Kids

The Pain of Parental Estrangement

A Common Story

Estrangement from a family member is always difficult for everyone involved, but it is especially painful for parents when the relationship with one or more children has been severed. The trauma is as deep and debilitating as injuries from a car accident, but shame and embarrassment make it difficult to seek help. Yet, estrangement is common. It is estimated that nearly one out of every eight parents is estranged from an adult child. One in every five older adults is considered an “elder orphan” with no one to turn to in a time of need. If you are one of them, please don’t try to go it alone any longer.

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Has your adult child severely limited or maybe totally cutoff all contact with you? Are you getting well intentioned suggestions from others about how to repair the relationship? Have people implied that it must be your fault? This process is called estrangement and you need to know that you are not alone. There is a path forward in the midst of your bewilderment. This book will share the common experiences among Parents of Estranged Adult Kids (PEAK™), the stages of estrangement, the impact it has on your health and well being, and many other elements of estrangement. It also outlines a journey that promotes healing for your spirit, your body, and your mind but leaves hope intact. Most importantly, this journey also prepares you for the day your child is ready to consider reconciliation.  


Absalom’s Wounds provides a resource for leaders who want to offer hope and healing for those struggling with this painful issue. Whether you are a pastor, a senior adult leader, a friend of an estranged parent, or living in a cut-off relationship yourself, you will find a Biblical perspective in the pages of this book that is relevant, insightful, and affirming.

This latest book from Dr. Stephen Birchard, and co-author, Fe Anam Avis, contains inspiring true stories of pets who survived against all odds. Discover that love, forgiveness, and hope will always prevail! A shot of courage for estranged parents looking for inspiration to keep moving forward!

PEAK provided me an outlet for venting my feelings of separation from my estranged daughter and became a vehicle for transporting me to a new reality where I was able to better take control of my future. The PEAK readings were particularly helpful and the group sharing allowed me the freedom to alleviate much of the pain that I was living with. Thank you for my new outlook.
Anonymous
PEAK member

How May We Help You?

We want to be there for you in ways that fit your need right now.

Join a PEAK group

In a PEAK group, you will discover that many others are dealing with the same issues that break your heart...and want to be there for you as well.

Read a book on your own

Many people are finding the book PEAK: Parents of Estranged Adult Kids a game-changing resource that you can begin reading on your own.

Check out other resources

We have a list of skilled and compassionate therapists who others have found helpful in dealing with their own estrangement issues.

A Father's Dream

“And so I live,
knowing you are there,
somewhere in the world,
a natural wonder,
irreplaceable,
but no path to find you again.
Even then, the broken is sharp,
and the gentlest touch still cuts.
I dream of a day
when the edges of the glass
are worn down by the waves of time
and the sand of suffering,
that I might find you once more,
and we might sit beside one another,
just two shades of green
watching the setting sun.”