Parents of Estranged Adult Kids

The Pain of Parental Estrangement

A Common Story

Estrangement from a family member is always difficult for everyone involved, but it is especially painful for parents when the relationship with one or more children has been severed. The trauma is as deep and debilitating as injuries from a car accident, but shame and embarrassment make it difficult to seek help. Yet, estrangement is common. It is estimated that nearly one out of every eight parents is estranged from an adult child. One in every five older adults is considered an “elder orphan” with no one to turn to in a time of need. If you are one of them, please don’t try to go it alone any longer.

Journey: Daily Readings for Lent and Easter

Any life transition is marked by an end of the life we knew and the beginning of a new one. In between we must pass through a difficult wilderness filled with temptations of confusion, self-doubt, and even despair. As difficult as it is, this journey through the wilderness is essential to the authentic and deepened life that awaits us. In these readings, parents who have been thrust into this wilderness by the estrangement of their adult children are invited to accompany Jesus on his journey through the wilderness, and to find hope that a new life is indeed possible.

We understand that many parents are from other faith traditions. However, many have found these daily readings helpful, even if from a spiritual practice that does not focus on the Lenten season of forty days before Easter. This new book is 225 pages with 48 daily devotions. Only PEAK offers a daily devotional specifically written for estranged parents.

“Your daily devotionals continue to be so uplifting and encouraging to my husband and myself.”

Don’t go through the agony of parental estrangement alone. 

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PEAK’s codirector, Dr. Keli Rugenstein, was interviewed as the main guest for Episode #1744, “For the Difficult Holiday.”
This episode aired on Thursday, December 22, 2022.

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Absalom’s Wounds provides a resource for leaders who want to offer hope and healing for those struggling with this painful issue. Whether you are a pastor, a senior adult leader, a friend of an estranged parent, or living in a cut-off relationship yourself, you will find a Biblical perspective in the pages of this book that is relevant, insightful, and affirming.

This book will share the common experiences among Parents of Estranged Adult Kids (PEAK™), the stages of estrangement, the impact it has on your health and well being, and many other elements of estrangement. It also outlines a journey that promotes healing for your spirit, your body, and your mind.

PEAK provided me an outlet for venting my feelings of separation from my estranged daughter and became a vehicle for transporting me to a new reality where I was able to better take control of my future. The PEAK readings were particularly helpful and the group sharing allowed me the freedom to alleviate much of the pain that I was living with. Thank you for my new outlook.
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How May We Help You?

We want to be there for you in ways that fit your need right now.

Join a PEAK group

In a PEAK group, you will discover that many others are dealing with the same issues that break your heart...and want to be there for you as well.

Read a book on your own

Many people are finding the book PEAK: Parents of Estranged Adult Kids a game-changing resource that you can begin reading on your own.

Check out other resources

We have a list of skilled and compassionate therapists who others have found helpful in dealing with their own estrangement issues.

A Father's Dream

“And so I live,
knowing you are there,
somewhere in the world,
a natural wonder,
but no path to find you again.
Even then, the broken is sharp,
and the gentlest touch still cuts.
I dream of a day
when the edges of the glass
are worn down by the waves of time
and the sand of suffering,
that I might find you once more,
and we might sit beside one another,
just two shades of green
watching the setting sun.”